There’s a quote I’ve come to love:
“If we live in the past, we feel depression. If we live in the future, we feel anxiety. But when we live in the present, we find peace.”

As moms, we feel it all. And our kids do too—especially when it comes to anxiety.
Whether it’s the pressure of school, friendships, sports, or the unknowns of growing up, anxiety can sneak in and steal the joy of the moment.

But here’s the beautiful part: we can teach our children how to come back to center. We can give them tools to quiet the chaos and return to the here and now, where life is actually happening.

Here are a few gentle words I’ve found myself saying when anxiety starts to creep in—for my children, and sometimes even for myself:

I'm in marketing, and one of the golden rules is this: either make them want what you have or solve a problem.

The problem with that?
We’re raising our kids in a world that constantly tells us — and them — that we’re not enough… just so it can sell us the “solution.”

It’s wild when you really think about it.
Social media filters. Diet fads. “Perfect” influencers. The next must-have trend.

Sure, we had some of that growing up.

Have you ever caught yourself saying, “I used to be so fun/spontaneous/stylish/confident before I became a mom”?
You're not alone.

Somewhere between packing lunches, driving carpools, managing emotions (theirs and ours), and keeping up with the endless to-dos, many of us begin to lose touch with the parts of ourselves that once felt so us.

But why does this happen?
Why do we shift into “Mom Mode” and unconsciously leave behind the authentic woman we once were—and still are beneath the surface?

One of the greatest gifts we can give our daughters is the space to truly discover who they are—without judgment, comparison, or pressure. Real confidence isn’t about fitting into a mold; it’s about embracing individuality, passions, and strengths. And the best way to help them do that? By setting the example ourselves—as mothers and mentors.

One of the most powerful statements I use for both myself and my children is, “Failure is feedback.” Instead of seeing setbacks as something negative, I encourage them to view failure as an opportunity to learn and grow.

When they face challenges, I break things down with them…

Motherhood is a journey filled with love, joy, and beautiful memories—but it’s also messy, exhausting, and sometimes overwhelming. No matter how hard we try, we will have bad moments. We will lose our patience, say something we wish we hadn’t, or feel like we’re failing. But here’s the truth: being a good mother doesn’t mean being a perfect one. Trust me on this one..